FRIENDSHIP

"He is my friend,I can't date him"

"We are too close, I can't date her"

"We've known too much of ourselves,we would use it to judge ourselves"

Come off it....It is not lack of love that makes a relationship unstable but lack of FRIENDSHIP.The best person you can be in a relationship with is your friend.

OK, I am not saying you should look for a random person,be friends with him/her and hope for a relationship.Not all friendship ends in a relationship.

You have a female/male friend you feel so comfortable been with,you share in his/her joys, pains. .....You know it all,...you both click and it feels like you've got the best friend in the world.You so much cherish the friendship that you're quick to say sorry. ...Then what's holding you back when he ask if you can take the friendship further?and dude what's holding you back from asking if she would like you both to take the friendship further?

Friendship is a relationship, it's a kind of relationship between two people who understands each other and keep forgiving because you care about each other.The key to a great FRIENDSHIP is UNDERSTANDING....To keep a RELATIONSHIP,you need UNDERSTANDING.

And when you have this UNDERSTANDING as FRIENDS. ....You are half way tolerating each other.

And if you're married or in a relationship leading to the Aisle. ....Don't stop being friends with your partner.Your partner should be the friend you can tell everything to without anyone getting offended or jealous.

Yes, you can get offended or get jealous. ......but in a loving way that you both will laugh over it...

The best person to go into a relationship with is your FRIEND
The best person you can stay in a relationship with is your FRIEND

Never stop being your partner's FRIEND.

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