It must not sink!

Do you know your relationship/marriage is also a business?.....No I don't mean, it's a game where you become selfish and all you wanted from it is just the goodies. Every successful business today had gone through one or two storms, but one thing made it successful. ....

DETERMINATION.In the face of determination, storms are like stepping stones, you get used to it,it becomes part of you. But note, you can't do it all alone, you need someone who is as strong as you or if not stronger than you to keep it going when you're falling apart.So is a relationship,when there's a partner who shares in your dreams, visions.....who understands this business called relationship has to stand the test of time, storms that could make one shaken then be assured your business is in its way to be profitable.

Being in a relationship means putting a whole lot of faith in someone who was, at one point, a total stranger to you. It’s all a bit terrifying when you really think about it..........RISKY,Odikwa very RISKY but still you have to try.Love isn't enough to make it all work....God,Commitment, trust, understanding, team work, determination, agreement, goal, contract, outcome..and many more you can think of makes it look like a "God ordained relationship".

Your last relationship didn't work out probably because you not working in the same direction, you failed to talk things out.

No one is compatible, you make yourselves compatible for each other.

Take responsibility for that failed relationship,don't hold on to it, let go of the good moments, a thousand and one people out there can give you more than that moment, instead,think about how you handled the rough moments, you'd meet people who are worse than that.

Learn to be calm in situations like this, never make a decision when furious,you might pay dearly for that decision later on, you are angry but don't let your words show it.

You failed once,strive not to fail again.

It didn't work out because you didn't strive for it....A failed relationship is part of life, it's OK to be hurt but it's not OK not to live above it.

You can make your relationship/marriage work, sometimes, you don't need a Pastor to pray for the unseen or a counsellor who isn't wearing the shoes ...all you need is YOU to think RIGHT.

My relationship/marriage........My business
It must not sink.

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