JUST BEWARE

Beware of young looking guys with no wedding rings, they're married with two or more kids.They forgot the vow they made on the altar,they keep their family away from the ills of the society, they give them shelter, they curb them from knowing what is going on out there.

To their wives, they are the best
To their in-laws, they are well respected.

And why am I saying this?I was almost a victim of going out with a married young man who has a teenage daughter and the wife was heavily pregnant as at then.

I was single, it was 6months my 6years old relationship went down the drain, he moved on almost immediately,he was even expecting a child with her,No, don't feel sorry and he isn't a bad person...Whatever will be will be.

I wasn't in a rush for a relationship though, I was still hurting,I kept on calling, I was wanting to settle for less.....I was working,I was diligent.....My colleagues could testify to my commitment.

Suddenly,a young good looking guy close to my workplace caught my attention, how....he was constant with calls, messages, the urge to see me, the urge to be with me....Hey! He never hide me from his "FRIENDS".....We go out holding hands, I was feeling comfortable, I was feeling loved,my wounds were healing, I was coming close to him and I find myself returning his calls, replying his chats,chatting with him at odd hours. He was becoming a source of happiness to me.

One day he said to me"I am anti social media, I only do whatsapp"......I was happy hearing that. ....A young man who doesn't facebook, tweet etc...oh! I'm secured.

The right attention coming from a wrong person might seem like the right attention needed.......Ladies need to cut down on the way they seek attention expecially when they're hurting.

And one day......He wrote on his whatsapp status a name. .....God bless..................(I can't write the name, he might bump into this one day, his wife too might)....

I think a lot, I'm a deep thinker.....I was wondering, who answers that name, if I ask him, he'd probably cajole me and I wouldn't be able to satisfy my curiosity.

I typed the name on Facebook, I saw the name clicked on it,his profile picture is him sitting next to his heavily pregnant wife and their beautiful daughter.I shook, I removed my glasses, I looked up, brought down my face again. ....I was at work, I needed to work. ...My phone rang, it was him, what do I do? Lash him over the phone,pretend I didn't see anything. ....I was confused and I needed to concentrate......I'm good at hiding pains, my colleagues didn't even noticed,I wanted to cry, i quickly stopped the tears from rolling.

I went back to check his Facebook wall, God, he married right, I saw the pictures, my head gbagaun. .....I flashed back immediately,oh! No wonder he was wanting to have sex with me badly,we got all cozy but I stopped, I wasn't ready. ....I couldn't lay with him. ....His energy was too much for me, he wanted it badly. Thank God, he stopped and I know he has promised himself to do all it takes to thrust himself into me.

Immediately, I was a bit happy,oh! Thank you Jesus, and I'm sorry. ....I was carried away by the wrong attention, I should have asked you.It brought smiles to my face. I was able to work well, I laughed and I was agile.

He kept calling and that was the last day I spoke with him, I blocked him off, I never replied his messages and till date he is yet to know why I acted that strange.(WISDOM)

I'm happy now
I don't attend to every attention expecially when I see that all I need was attention,
I became more careful
I became strict
I became more disciplined
I placed a price on myself
I think before I act
A zillion calls won't get me closer
I became highly principled
They say I'm proud, it didn't get to me.....I know my worth is in my pride.
And God became a light unto my path.

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