Be porn free!

Have you ever watched a 'blue film' (porn)? That's what it was called back then. I hear it enhance a couples sex life and once the sex is good, the marriage is also good. BIG LIE

Well, out of curiosity I watched a bit of it. hmmm......I didn’t see love o. I didn’t really even see sex, not as I understood it. What I saw was violence - pounding, strangling, tearing (Lord have mercy). I think most of us would be horrified if we saw what most porn today really is. It isn’t just pictures of naked women like there used to be in Playboy; most is very violent, extremely degrading, and very ugly.This is not about beautiful ladies being caressed lovingly by men who love them, these are 18-year-old girls with fake breasts who have zero body hair being pounded like desirable pieces of willing meat.

In our culture porn is treated as if it’s harmless, but it’s not. You hear people say ''oh it is a normal guy thing and everybody does it. No it is not. Some will say it is better than cheating on your wife - well if you dont call watching another woman naked, cheating - I wonder what is. Maybe as a single man it works for you, but if you have a wife - yes it is cheating, it is also very harmful and hurtful. Instead of looking forward to making love your man wants to have rough unpleasant sex not minding that you are not enjoying yourself. The more you watch, the more bored you get with the current status quo and you want to try out something new. I have heard lots of women boast about how they can give their man sex in any style or position. While this may be fantastic - I really hope they are not matching themselves up with porn stars because these ladies/prostitutes are on drugs and can twists their bodies into positions that are not always comfortable for them. They do this so so that the audience can see the “action” — the penis going into the vagina or anus – in other words “a better camera angle”. However, these positions are often not ideal for sexual satisfaction for either partner. The rule is this: if it looks or feels uncomfortable, change positions. (By the way did you know that 99% of them are on drugs to make the pains disappear temporarily during the act?).

I'm not judging and I'm not here to preach but I believe pornography should have no influence in any healthy marriage. Its disgusting and disrespectful to any woman who values herself. In my opinion, pornography make women like objects, and acts like this do even more damage, setting up young women to believe it is their job to work magic with their vagina to entertain a man sexually. Your man did not only marry you for sex so he should love you irrespective of whether you give the best sex or not.  Don't believe the lie that being a pornstar for your man is the loving thing to do. No, it is NOT a woman's role, job, obligation or anything else to be a pornstar for a man. His job is to love her and to learn her body and for her to learn his. To give each other pleasure physically and emotionally. To connect on a spiritual level and touch each other's heart. Every man who TRULY loves his wife will not participate in such actions.

Dear married women, we need to make a stand. We need to refuse to accept the menace of pornography in our lives. Dont turn yourself into a prostitute just because you want to please a man.  I am one of those women who is not okay with porn, and that includes live soft-core porn – i.e., strip clubs. Yes, I’m that wife. I’m the annoying wife who won’t let my husband go to a bachelor party if I know he is going to be exposed to a stripper. (And, yes, I can, within reason, tell my husband he can’t do things, just as he can tell me I can’t do things. Marriage is a covenant and its part of my obligation to preserve his soul for heaven.)

Make your home a porn-free zone. Don’t believe the lie that when your husband looks at porn, it doesn’t affect you. It does. The viewer of porn disrespects the people he watches and he will end up disrespecting you. And believe me it will not improve the sex life in your marriage either. When God ordained marriage he gave us all we need to have a satisfying sex life. If your spouse decides he wants a freak, he should go pay for it and leave you in peace to have your dignity. There are women in that line of work. God forbid, If we ever get to that point then its time for us to start some serious fasting and praying to commit that 'sickness' into God's hands.

Porn is serious. It wrecks people’s sex lives, it makes people selfish, and it ultimately wrecks marriages. Let’s spread the word, and fight against it!