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How do we place MANIPULATION and GASLIGHTING? What is MANIPULATION? This is an act of taking over someone in a clever or unscrupulous way. What is GASLIGHTING? This is a means of  psychologically MANIPULATING you into doubting your sanity. In other words,we can define GASLIGHTING as an act of psychologically taking over someone in an unscrupulous way into doubting their sanity. Now let's talk Gaslighting in interpersonal relationships is often developed or built on an existing power. Gaslighting in relationships is a situation where one person is so important to the other that they don't want to take chances of upsetting or loosing them.This can be found in a boss, friend,siblings and even parents. Gaslighting in romantic relationships or marriages happens when there is an unequal power and the target has given the gaslighter power and often their respect. And we would be looking at Gaslighting in romantic relationships and or marriages. Before we read on and for bet...

< Many times, I see people berating girls for the denigrative manner they tell off some of their admirers.... well, some of these babes can't help it even though many of them are just blowing air at brothers in order to catch trips and form levels. Truth is, some guys have no modicum of self-worth in them. I mean how do you explain giving someone 15 missed calls at a stretch when she's not owing you any money? How do you keep texting someone without end when she doesn't reply? How do you keep trailing someone like a pesky fly buzzing after a soiled bum? Beats me silly! Nigeria's 182m population has over half of this figure as people under 30 years according to Bloomberg, that's close to 90 million young people of which over 40m are arguably females. Talk about biting your tongue for bathing water when you're drowning in the Ocean. All these fine fine girls milling around on all these plenty plenty social media and streets and you're killing yourself ov...

I left here early 2019....I know y'all have lost all hopes in me. I still had my app till February 2020....My phone got damaged...got another and my memory card where the app was,got missing mysteriously( so many hidden stories to that but be assured you will read about it someday). I totally forgot how much I could write my pains, joys,fears,hopes,future...I totally forgot writing makes me happy.Instead,I was chasing a shadow. The first 3 months of 2020 was hell for me. Every of my thought was how to make another happy,I get out of bed forgetting myself and catering for another. Every of my steps was how to make things right not for myself but for another...I obviously never saw me as being enough for me. I was looking into another mirror to see myself,I broke my mirror,I got it shattered,I trashed my life,I wasn't living for myself. I was living in a cubicle,a circle.I was stagnant while I thought I was moving. I lost my inner peace but I didn't know...I left the visual w...

When He created the Heavens and the Earth,He spoke them into being.When He created man,He formed him and breathe life into his nostrils. But me, A WOMAN,He fashioned after He breathe the breath of life into man because my nostrils are too delicate. He allowed a deep sleep to come over him so He could patiently  and perfectly fashion me,so He could interfere with my creativity. From one bone,He fashioned me,He chose the bone that protects man's life.He chose the RIB,which protects his heart and lungs,the bone that supports him. Around this one bone, He shaped me, He modelled me, He created me perfectly and beautifully.My characteristics are as the rib, strong yet delicate and fragile. I provide protection for the most delicate organ in man... HIS HEART.His heart is the centre of his being,his lungs hold the breath of life, the rib cage will allow itself to be broken before it will allow damage to the heart.I am created to support man. I was not taken from his feet to be under hi...

There is more to you than you have discovered or knew. Love inward and you will be amazed at what is left untapped and unused of you. Reward those who solve problems for you. Reward those who helped you achieve your goals. Reward yourself family when they help you achieve your goals. Continiously paint the portrait  of reward in the minds of those who share your visions and dreams. Remind yourself of the rewards of your own goal. Sow unexpected gifts as seed of appreciation to your loved ones. There is a call for deep reflection and search. I wish y'all a wondrous and fulfilling 2019. Once again, Happy New Year!

Please slow down and practice PATIENCE... It takes time to enjoy the simple things in life. Take time to THINK...It is the source of power. Take time to PLAY...It is the secret of perpetual youth. Take time to READ... It is the fountain of wisdom. Take time to PRAY...It is the greatest power on Earth. Take time to LOVE and be LOVED... It is God given privilege. Take time to be FRIENDLY... It is the road to happiness. Take time to LAUGH...It is the music of the soul. Take time to GIVE... It is too short a day to be selfish. Take time to WORK...It is the price of success. Take time to do CHARITY... It makes you fulfilled. Take your time to be YOU... It makes YOU YOU.

I wish you can see my face while typing this..... Yes, it's been months,it's been a long time but the beautiful thing is I never stopped writing. Was I running away from here? Yes, I was.... I wasn't ready to fight battles of being in the limelight,I am not that strong,I can't fight,little word gets to me.... I don't want people viewing this and giving me a negative strength. Lol,I wasn't actually ready for the limelight,the liberation and the hurdles behind being a writer I know. Now ask me, am I ready? My disappearance here was to go for a gym class to gather strengths and have a broad chest to 'odeshi' the bullets.lol I realized that it takes determination and consistency to get to the top and right about now,the determination on my face is a strong one. My consistency percentage had risen. The sledgehammer I have is mightier than Thor's...... I am fully ready for this and I'm prepared. I am back not to go back anymore.....The future ...

LEARN TO BREATHE Whatever tomorrow brings I’ll still be alive and kicking, breathing and learning to understand the swiveling propensity of the wind. Only God can explain to me the pros and cons of my own story, the more people try to get close to me there’s always a sudden decline in the predilection of our proximity so I just reveal to them what they want to see. There is always exaggeration in every form of perfection and an element of truth in every awkward statement. Whatever beautiful thing tomorrow brings, I hope it last and I am alive to grasp it. I hope I have the effrontery to preserve it and cherish it for the rest of my existence, this is me this is my life, I cry a lot with a smile on my slim face especially when I walk under the rain; a times I just want to breathe and perceive the beauty of the wind but then I sneeze only to miss the comportment of the breeze. I want to know what it really means to be alive and feel internal peace, you know to feel accompli...

Among the many reasons why majority find it hard to let go of things or people that no longer serve them is because of our associations and level of permissiveness. Too many times, we care about what other people think of us, we crave for approval from others so much and that is debilitating. We are so good in allowing others control our happiness. We are being tough on ourselves, on mistakes we have made and allowing the opinion of others to count in our lives. I have also learnt that one of the hardest decisions you have to make is limiting your association with negative influence. But it's also important you ask yourself; **Are they helping you or pushing you in the direction of your dreams?** Well,youu don't have to necessarily dissociate yourself from them, however you can gradually spend less time with them. ************************************* If you need the approval of other people in other to be successful in life, then, ENTREPRENEURSHIP is not for you. *****...

Brothers, before you go marry an energetic, enterprising or a vision driven lady, abeg crosscheck your ego to find out if your woman’s potential success in the near future will make you feel inferior or intimidated. No go marry lady wey get fire to succeed pass you only to wake up one morning feeling her drive is way more than you can bear. It’s annoying hearing stories of men who dread their wife’s success. Men who feel demean at the very sighting of their wife’s potential to succeed above them. Just heard of a guy who stopped his wife from writing a professional exam. Because he believes if she passes that exam, her promotion at work will make her less resourceful as a wife and mother. How????? It’s not a sign of masculinity to kill your woman’s dream ooo. Naaa!. It’s a show of insecurity. Serious insecurity. Not all women who succeed disrespect and under value their husbands. Cause that the direction most men tread this days. And Bros...

FYB - A MERE ACRONYM?? The acronym FYB might only mean FINAL YEAR BRETHREN, it might mean you're no longer offering those 301,204,107 et al but it has more meanings than how it's being viewed. I remembered vividly when I was in 100 level then, I used to presume those guys in 400/500 level knows everything in their field of learning, I used to believe they have answers to every questions thrown at them(not just class questions in this case) but I've grown to discover "schooling is different from education" I've discovered "schooling will only make you to be a literate and not educated" Yes, FYB should mean you're educated, it means you now have the experience, it means posterity should see you as a mentor, it means you know something tangible in your field of study, it means you're a solution to people's problems, and it finally mean you're ready to stand alone in the outside world, FYB is a responsibility and not an appellation, the...

Hello everybody, I wish you well. Love and peace I bring to you, happiness and joy I humbly unveil before thee, in your presence I have opened a bottle of cheery and opulence. You deserve gladness and satisfaction, every man and living human ought to know the essence and value of peace. I don’t need an in-depth knowledge of you or your history to see you put a broad smile across your face and live a sublime life beyond the malady of our given society. Love and peace every soldier deserves. This year is going to be sensational, every minute would certainly help to define the singularity of our existence and primary essence of our cultural plurality, love and peace every child ought to experience in the home, love and peace the citizens of a nation should enjoy without threshold and detriments. 2018 isn’t a year for rehearsal; this is a period for apt execution of a coherent lifestyle while the camera keeps rolling, this is a time for supernatural progression there is no re...

It is time for our young ladies to know that when a man is ready to marry,he will not look out for a woman who will  satisfy his sex drive but a woman with visions and submissive attribute. Excuse my language. ....."Every woman has vagina but not every woman has humility". Sadly, many young ladies in our days(I was part of it)call submission as control,I had this believe that we're equal, we both have a say....I should be able to impose whatever decision I make, I just wanted to be above not anywhere below him,I just want to act like"yea,I am a graduate,you can't just tell me shits, I spent so many years in the university&and a man wants to tell me what not to do or say".Yea,I was like that, Have gat this EGO in me, I just don't want to submit, with the romantic tone of.....I don't want any man to control me o, why I go school nah? (Smiling) Most ladies are like that,but I think it's high time we learnt that if you don't want to submit...

The most beautiful people we have known are those who have known defeat, known suffering, known struggle, known loss, and have found their way out of the depths. These persons have an appreciation, a sensitivity, and an understanding of life that fills them with compassion, gentleness, and a deep loving concern. Beautiful people do not just happen. -Elisabeth Kübler-Ross- _ You know how it is women (Females)  get insecure about their body and how it affects their mood?  Well, it's normal. Women are wired with tons of emotion network that men fail or hardly get to understand. . Do I look fat? Am I adding weight? Is my hair looking rough? Do you think I look beautiful? Do you still love me? . This questions may come off a bit annoying to men as we assume we are being invaded  and blamed but that's not even the case. . women like to be assured that they are still seen. Adored. it's what drives them. It's that special ingredient that makes women wake up i...

Are you governed by irrational fears? Are you self‑centered? Are you blaming others for your problems? Are you stubbornly refusing to admit you were wrong? Are you reluctantly yielding because you have to? Are you excluding God from the events of your life? Do you rely on human schemes rather than the grace of God? Do you resort to God last, as a hope, but not in prayer? Are you stoically resigning yourself to fate? When things seem to be against you When it all seems BLACK AND BLANK 1. Put God into the equation 2. Put your situation into historical perspective 3. Put down selfish unbelieving thoughts AND 4. TRUST in the God who is for you.

They call us the Microwave generation for a reason. We are too impatient to work things out. We have friends/counsels who are quick to advice us to get up and leave if things don't go our way. She cheated on me, so i'm out (I can't take rubbish). He does not love me like before - so i'm out (there must be someone better out there). He does not consider me as equal, so I'm out (What do you consider as equal, maybe we are watching too many western TV). She does not look as beautiful as she was when I married her, so i'm out(ermmm, oga, madam has offloaded 3 children and is expecting number 4 next month). She does not know how to cook my favorite egusi soup, so I looked for alternatives (Please sir, I'm aware that men can cook too - the best chefs are actually men). All these are just excuses. Stories that touch the heart. We need a bit more commitment in marriage. Not only when things are better, but when it is worse. Commitment is the willingness to do WHA...

Fill up your brain daily, Study my man, get knowledge Desire insight my woman, be thoughtful. Imbibe something sublime into your head, Leave it opaque and it’s at your own peril, The brain is in dire need of words of life. It wants to be breathe aid it with oxygen, Don’t be a societal fool, use your mental tool, Think man think, let the ideas flow in rivulet manner. The brain is yours, same with the glory and gore, The function of the brain can never be exhausted, Endorse it today tomorrow it might put you to shame. Activate the brain; someday you’ll be thankful you ignited it.

The question is do you respect your man enough? Is your respect based on what he is doing for you now? Is the respect only there when he has enough money and can provide for you? if he didnt have a job or earn enough money, will we respect him still? For most of us ladies, we believe that a man should earn his respect.We tend to respect him more when he has a job, pays the bills and do all the manly stuff a man should do. On the contrary men believe they should be respected based on who they are not what they do for you. Even God knew that the key to unlocking the potential in a man is to treat that man with unconditional respect, loooong before he deserves it. Give a man his respect, he will know you 'love' him and you will live a very long life in your marriage. If they don’t feel respected, they can’t survive (emotionally). That is why it is so important for a woman to learn to give her man UNCONDITIONAL respect. If a woman will learn to respect her husband even when...

Worries... Worries... Worries... During our lives we all have the same type of concerns. ** We worry about the failure of our government and leaders. ** We worry about becoming unemployed ** We worry about the future of our kids ** We worry about finding a life partner ** We worry about getting an education. ** We worry about our housing. ** We worry about the health. ** We worry about the traffic ** We worry about not having "30 billion for the akkant" * And so on. TODAY, I would rather you operate from a paradigm of “motives” rather than that of “worries.” I want you （in sober reflections）to the through the motive beyond all the choices you have made in your life till now. You may start with questions like: ** Why do I do what I do? ** Why do I have the friends I have? ** What do I seek to achieve and why? ** Why do I always make the same mistake? ** Why do I take the chances I do? ** And why am I good at this? If you answer t...

THE 120 MINUTES WONDER. I have not heard any deligent person say "I have too much time for what I want to do."  There will always be something to do. Always work from a list! WHY? When something new (task, project, activity) comes up, you can add it to the list before you do it. Time management experts have proven that you can increase your productivity and output by 25% or more than -which is about 2 hours a day -  from the first day that you begin working consistently from a list. Let me share a tip with you. MAKE YOUR LIST THE NIGHT BEFORE THE WORKDAY AHEAD. When you do not achieve what you have planned earlier on your list, add it to the lost for the next day and give it a top priority. Because you have planned each day in advance on your list, your SUBCONCIOUS MIND begins work on it immediately and all night long even while you SLEEP. What a great strategy to help you approach your day with sheer optimism and enthusiasm! Did I mention that your job gets better and ...